A big part of blogging is learning how to communicate well and especially how to say no. This is something I’m still learning how to do in every day life. Saying no is super awkward! I always impulsively say “yes” and then have to rethink things.

A couple years ago, I was contacted by a blogger to contribute a shop item to a holiday giveaway. I knew that I wanted to say no because a) I was busy and overwhelmed during that season and b) I wasn’t comfortable being associated with the blog and its vibe. Instead, I said something along the lines of “sorry I’m too busy right now!” hoping the situation would be forgotten. This blogger was consistent, man. A few requests later, I was finally straightforward and said no.

These are some things I like to consider in order to overcome or avoid awkward moments in the blogosphere:

1. Keep disclaimers or disclosure statements to build consistency in what your blog represents. Is it a for profit blog? Can just anyone apply to sponsor? Do you have rules for people who want to use your images?

My sponsor page has a very broad list of who should apply to sponsor. I love offering sponsor spots or reviewing products for people or companies who are doing what they love in a creative and thoughtful way. If I get a request that’s too far out there, I will probably have to say no. Remember to only support the brands you value. Saying no is better than having weird buttons on your sidebar that you don’t love. Yikes.

2. Develop a genuine, kind way of saying no. The word itself is negative and can come across as sounding mean especially via email. If someone approaches you and wants to collaborate but you’re not feeling it, find ways to let them know you truly appreciate that they reached out to you.

3. Be prepared to give people resources that will better suit their needs. A few months ago, I contacted one of my favorite designers to see if she would be interested in helping me design my blog. She told me that she didn’t do blog designs anymore and directed me to giant helpful directory of resources. I loved that. Even if you can’t help someone yourself, you can redirect them to people or places that will give them what they need. :)

Are you comfortable with saying no? If so, what’s your secret?